{"id":16310,"date":"2025-05-02T09:00:21","date_gmt":"2025-05-02T16:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/?p=16310"},"modified":"2025-05-02T09:00:23","modified_gmt":"2025-05-02T16:00:23","slug":"we-dont-have-a-cultural-place-for-men-as-victims-why-men-often-dont-tell-anyone-about-sexual-abuse-the-conversation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/?p=16310","title":{"rendered":"“\u2018We don\u2019t have a cultural place for men as victims\u2019: why men often don\u2019t tell anyone about sexual\u00a0abuse”, The Conversation"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Authors<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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  1. Vita Pilkington<\/a>Research Fellow, PhD Candidate in men’s experiences of sexual trauma, The University of Melbourne<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Sarah Bendall<\/a>Professorial Fellow in Youth Mental Health, The University of Melbourne<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Zac Seidler<\/a>Associate Professor, Centre for Youth Mental Health, The University of Melbourne<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Disclosure statement<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Vita Pilkington led this project and receives funding from the Melbourne Research Scholarship and the Margaret Cohan Research Scholarship, both awarded by the University of Melbourne. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Sarah Bendall has been awarded a NHMRC Investigator Grant to support research surrounding understanding and treating trauma in young people with mental health difficulties. She has previously held a NHMRC Early Career Fellowship and a McCusker Philanthropic Foundation Fellowship. She advises government on trauma and youth mental health policy, including Victoria’s statewide trauma service (Transforming Trauma Victoria). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Zac Seidler receives funding from an NHMRC Investigator Grant. He is also the Global Director of Research with the Movember Institute of Men’s Health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    In Australia, it\u2019s estimated almost one in five boys<\/a> (18.8%) experience child sexual abuse. And at least one in 16 men<\/a> (6.1%) experience sexual violence after age 15. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    However, many boys and men don\u2019t tell others about these experiences. Studies show men are less likely<\/a> to disclose sexual abuse<\/a> and assaults than women. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It also takes boys and men longer to first disclose sexual abuse<\/a> or assaults. On average, men wait 21 years<\/a> before telling anyone about being abused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    This is a problem because talking to others<\/a> is often an important part of understanding and recovering from these traumatic experiences. When boys and men don\u2019t discuss these experiences, it risks their mental health problems and isolation becoming worse<\/a> and they don\u2019t get the support they need<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    We wanted to understand what prevents boys and men from telling others about sexual abuse and assaults (or \u201csexual trauma\u201d). So we conducted a systematic review<\/a>, where we pooled together evidence from a range of studies on the topic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    We found 69 relevant studies, which included more than 10,500 boys and men who had experienced sexual trauma from around the world. Studies were published in 23 countries across six continents, with most studies from the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom. Two studies were published in Australia.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Our new findings offer clues as to how we can break down the barriers preventing men and boys from discussing sexual trauma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Many boys and men don\u2019t tell anyone if they\u2019ve been victim to sexual violence.gpointstudio\/Shutterstock<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    Upending masculine identities<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    We found across countries and cultures, boys\u2019 and men\u2019s sexual trauma affected their masculine identities. This included feeling as though they are not \u201creal men\u201d, or that they\u2019re weak for having been targeted and assaulted. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    In one study<\/a>, a participant explained: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    Sexual abuse to a man is an abuse against his manhood as well. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

    Almost universally, boys and men suffered intense feelings of shame and guilt about being victimised, and many blamed themselves for years to decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Many boys and men said they were worried others would think they were gay if they disclosed being abused or assaulted. This harmful stereotype reflects widespread homophobic attitudes as well as mistaken beliefs about survivors of abuse and assaults.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Sexual abuse against boys and men has been long been overlooked, dismissed and misunderstood. The taboo nature of the issue was felt by participants. As a therapist who supported male survivors of abuse said in one study<\/a>: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    We don\u2019t have a cultural place for men as victims.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

    LGBTQIA+ men face additional barriers to disclosure. Some experienced distress surrounding concerns abuse or assaults somehow cause, or contribute to, their sexualities<\/a>. Many also reported receiving unsupportive and homophobic responses<\/a>when they disclosed abuse and assaults to others. This includes their stories being minimised and dismissed, or suggestions they must have consented given their attraction to other men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Stigma if they do tell<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    In many cases, boys and men who tried to tell others about their sexual trauma were met with stigmatising and unhelpful responses. Some were blamed<\/a>, told they were making it up<\/a>, or even mocked<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Others were discouraged from speaking out about their experiences again. In some countries, people tell boys and men not to talk about being abused or assaulted because this is seen as bringing shame on themselves and their families.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Boys and men who were assaulted by women were often told their experiences can\u2019t be classified as abuse or assaults, or aren\u2019t bad enough to warrant support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Understanding why men don\u2019t talk<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Many of these barriers to disclosure are linked to harmful myths<\/a>about sexual abuse and assaults among boys and men. These include mistaken beliefs that men are not abused or assaulted, and that only gay men are abused or assaulted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    What\u2019s more, many people believe experiencing sexual abuse or assaults is at odds with socially-held ideas about how men \u201cshould\u201d behave<\/a>: for example, constantly demonstrating physical strength, dominance, self-reliance and toughness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    These strict ideas about what it means to be a man appear to prevent many boys and men from disclosing sexual trauma<\/a>, and impact how others respond when they do disclose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It can also mean boys and men try to bury their difficulties after sexual trauma<\/a> because they feel they\u2019re expected to be unemotional and cope with their problems independently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    If men don\u2019t feel comfortable telling anyone about their experience, they can\u2019t get help. Drazen Zigic\/Shutterstock<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    What can we do better?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    We know having experienced sexual trauma is closely linked to significant mental health problems in boys and men. These include substance abuse<\/a> and addiction, post-traumatic stress disorder<\/a>, depression<\/a> and even suicide<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Receiving unsupportive and stigmatising responses when they try to seek help only makes these issues worse<\/a>, and adds to cycles of silence and shame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    We must break down barriers that stop boys and men disclosing these traumatic experiences. Doing so could save lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Helping boys and men disclose sexual trauma isn\u2019t just about encouraging them to come forward. We need to make sure other people are prepared to respond safely when they choose to speak up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    There are many ways to raise awareness of the fact sexual abuse and assault happens to boys and men. For example, television shows such as Baby Reindeer<\/a> helped put this issue at the forefront of conversation<\/a>. Public health campaigns that explicitly bring boys and men into discussions about sexual trauma can also be helpful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    We also need to do more to make sure boys and men who experience sexual trauma have suitable places to go for support<\/a>. Australia has some services doing vital work in this space, such as the Survivors & Mates Support Network<\/a>. However, more funding and support is crucial so men across the country have safe spaces to discuss and recover from their experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    The National Sexual Assault, Family and Domestic Violence Counselling Line \u2013 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) \u2013 is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week for any Australian who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and\/or sexual assault<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Authors Disclosure statement Vita Pilkington led this project and receives funding from the Melbourne Research Scholarship and the Margaret Cohan Research Scholarship, both awarded by the University of Melbourne.  Sarah Bendall has been awarded a NHMRC Investigator Grant to support research surrounding understanding and treating trauma in young people with mental health difficulties. She has […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1001004,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[53],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16310"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1001004"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=16310"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16310\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16312,"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16310\/revisions\/16312"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=16310"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=16310"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/worldcampaign.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=16310"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}